Watched The Wedding Date with my mom a while ago. Kat Ellis is played by Debra Messing (Grace in Will & Grace) while Nick Mercer is played by Dermont Mulroney (the straight guy in My Best Friend's Wedding).

I was disappointed by the movie - not that I was expecting much. It's just that, the movie didn't show me how they fell in love, they just did. And we're supposed to buy it. I also don't get why
these two people should fall in love with each other. I may kind of get Kat, who is said to be very nice, pretty and is quite a heartbreaker. She's had many boyfriends daw. Which isn't really a
big change from her Grace character, is it?

And Nick... well, he's nice to look at (has a very curious scar near his lip that keeps attracting my attention the entire time he's on the screen), but he really can't act. He can look pretty and look thoughtfully and he seems like a good kisser. But otherwise? He really can't act. He's got a total of one expression on his face. Ok, maybe two. I suppose his smile does count as another kind of expression.

And the sex? I somehow can't buy it. But I have to give props to the movie. It's something new. Even if it brings to mind a rehash and way weird and different type of Pretty Woman.

Anyway, there were two sayings there that struck me: (of course, that's not verbatim)
1. Every woman is in the kind of relationship that they want to be in.
2. The hardest thing is not to love someone but to accept their love.

The first one struck me because it made me think back to my past relationships. Did I really somehow want those? The funny thing is that, it's not. No person wants to be in... er... the kind of relationship I was in. And right now, am I were I wanna be? Am I, as Nick told Kat, unknowingly giving off signals about what I want and don't want? Like, Nick told Kat that when she's ready for a relationship, she'll give out the signals. Kat's saying that she's ready for it, but Nick's all, I don't think so. Makes me think about what signals I give out.

It's the second one that hit me the most, made me think about certain things in my life. It is very true... some might think that falling in love is the hardest thing, but when I think about
it... it's allowing yourself to be loved - that's extra hard. After all, when you fall in love with another, your only fear is the pain. But when you allow someone to fall for you... it's not just
pain. See, to allow someone to love you means that you have to bare it all for that person (and I don't mean being naked, although Dermont does have a very nice ass). But you have to trust that person, trust him enough to give him power over you (I always see it as that: power). You become vulnerable to that person, showing him/her your good points and bad points. And all the time is the fear that one day, he/she might see something in you that he/she doesn't like and - boom! - it's heartbreak city.

In allowing yourself to accept the love of another, you not only have your feelings on the line, but also the other person's. If you suddenly decide you've had enough, you'll hurt the other
person. Suddenly, your actions are not just accountable to yourself. Suddenly, another person is affected by your actions just as his/her actions affect you.

However you look at it, love really is the biggest risk one takes, isn't it? And yet, as Christian (Ewan McGregor) said in Moulin Rouge, "A life without love is no life at all" and "the greatest
thing you'll ever learn is to love and be loved in return."

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Also, off to Singapore tomorrow. Am kinda nervous. I'm going to be there alone for one night. My mom will head off there on Wednesday. See, she's got business there and I decided to tag
along coz I'm the only one of my family who hasn't been there. My parents decided to allow me to go, but May 4 was totally booked. So I'm leaving on the 3rd. I think my parents are kind of nervous about it, but I'm not. Not really. Kind of excited about it and stuff. I'm not going to spend much, though. Like I said, my parents were great to allow me to go and pay for my trip, but I know that they're also strapped for cash (who isn't, nowadays). So I'm going light on expenses.

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Also, got my first email review from fanfiction.net! Yay! It totally made my day! And made me want to write... which I can't coz I don't have time.

And I'll leave with this totally adorable picture of Em-em that I just love: