BREAKING UP

People hurt always when a relationship ends. It’s not always clear why it ends… it just does. And you can’t really turn back time. It hurts, it always does and it always will for quite a long time. Especially if you truly loved that person. You might be bitter, you might blame someone or something... but things always happen for a reason. There’s no how or why… it just does. And sometimes, even if there is a reason… there’s debate as to whether or not it is a good enough reason for both of them. Unfortunately, when one feels that it has to end… the other has no choice but to accept it. And once the words, “I think we should break up (or even cool off for that matter)” is uttered… you can’t go back. It’ll just always be there, especially if the ‘problem’ hasn’t been cleared up.

It hurts. It always does. And nobody can really do anything about it except suck it in and deal with it. Things will get better… it always does, and that’s what everybody says. But when you’re in the midst of it, it doesn’t seem so to you. All you can think of is to make the pain go away. And sometimes you just want to talk to him, have him hold you in his arms as you cry. As a quote said, “the hardest part about breaking up is that you’re losing the one you’re closest to. You sometimes want to call him up and say ‘help, I’m really hurting,’ but you can’t because he’s the reason why you’re hurting.”

Things always work out in the end. He wasn’t for you. There are other fishes in the sea. He doesn’t deserve you. God wouldn’t give you anything He knows you can’t handle. What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger. Time heals all wounds. He’s not worth your tears and the only one who is won’t make you cry.

We’ve heard them all, the comforting words, the words that are a litany as you go through the painful daily process of living through the day. Maybe I’m being melodramatic and maybe I’m not. Anybody who has ever loved another unconditionally knows what I’m talking about. And those who haven’t felt this way ever before… it maybe just means that you’ve never felt real love and lost it.

I sometimes envy those who go through life not really experiencing heartbreak. They seem to me to be… charmed… lucky. Yet maybe the person who has loved and lost is also lucky. After all, they’re the ones who can truly appreciate love when it next comes around and also, they’re the ones who know just how important and valuable was the person and feeling that they let go or lost.

Some are lucky, some are not. Love has it’s own reasons. Fate shows us the way. Yet it’s up to us to choose them in order to live them as we were ‘destined’ to. That, my friends, is just life.